I was recently accused of being a sadist by one of my readers after noting that they could not possibly bear the type of punishment described in some of my stories. Others have made similiar comments about not wishing to experience a great deal of pain. This leads to an important point about the Dom/sub relationship. No Dom of any intelligence would ever subject his sub to more pain than they could bear. They may challenge the sub, and push limits, but a sub would not derive any pleasure from pain greater than that.
The Dom/sub relationship is one of giving, receiving, trust, and fulfillment. Each give to the other for the pleasure of the other. Preferences, likes, dislikes, and so on must be considered by each party. It is not one sided, and finding the right partner is key to success.
About The Author:
- Max
- I have had an intense interest in bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism for as long as I can remember. Although predominately a top, I am a switch and find a great deal of pleasure in both roles. I would also be best described as hetroflexible. Nothing arouses me more than tight bondage and the slow-burning application of pleasure and pain. I love to write and White Room is an outlet for my thoughts. Please have a look around. Drop me a line. I chat with people from all over the world and would love to hear from you. Cheers....
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3 comments:
Pain is relative and people may be surprised at what some might consider excessive and others simply a "warming up". Each of us has different levels of pain tolerance and are wired to process pain differently. Further, a skilled Dominant knows how to work up to levels that onlookers may thing are excessive but in fact are simply a much-desired culmination of a skilful practitioner.
Nicely stated selkie, thanks for your comment.
I believe I am one of those who called Max a sadist. It was not meant to offend, but rather as a compliment. For me, a sadist in the BDSM community is the true artisan. His work a beautiful masterpiece that brings joy to others.
Society recoils in horror at the term sadist, and indeed, many abusive individuals 'hide' under the guise of BDSM. I do not see a true sadist as an abuser, seeking to inflict pain and suffering on others for their own benefit. Rather, they are a select few who understand BDSM at a level few can ever hope to attain. They understand submissives better than we understand ourselves, and can turn our dreams into reality. Pain and ecstasy are his tools to hone us into better submissives.
I find myself drawn uncontrollably to dominants like Max. If beckoned, I could do nothing but submit. My fear would be overshadowed by my trust in his skills. I see tears streaming down my face; tears of pain mingle with tears of joy. My body trembles. Broken, but renewed as a better man under the gentle hand of a true master.
Thank you Max.
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